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02-25-2010, 10:01 AM #1
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Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
I know discussion has been had about sharing information about members who have been bad participants. There is a member who I sent items in good faith to get paid and have not received payment in over two months. I want to share the information with name to education others on the board about this member, but don't want misuse the board. How should I handle this to educate others? Thanks!
jason
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02-25-2010, 10:16 AM #2
Re: Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
Always looking for top NBA game worn items of superstar and Hall-of-Fame-caliber players (especially Kobe, LeBron, MJ, Curry and Durant). Also looking for game worn items of all players from special events (e.g., All Star Game, NBA Finals, milestone games, etc.). Please contact me at gameusedequip2@hotmail.com. Thank you.
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02-25-2010, 10:24 AM #3
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Re: Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
Is this regarding the member that you were looking fo in another post?
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02-25-2010, 10:26 AM #4
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Re: Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
Why would you ever send someone an item BEFORE you were paid?
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02-25-2010, 10:48 AM #5
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Re: Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
Because I like to take people for their word and it seems as if so many on this board are stand-up people that I made a bad assumption but am still trying not to be jaded by a small minority, but getting harder and harder not to. So, I am taking my part in this by trusting someone so just wanted to share my experience with this board member not that someone should or should not deal with this member, but to at least not make the same mistake and trust them. Hey, if he wants to buy something and pays up front, then I got no problem with a board member selling to this party, but I think there are several people who like to trust the fellow collectors and this is not one to be trusted. Maybe I am naive but I was just trying to help a collector get an item they wanted and let me heart get in the way of my head. My bad but if others can learn from my mistakes, then I think at least something good comes from it.
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03-01-2010, 10:10 AM #6
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Re: Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
I did not intend the question as a criticism. I learned the hard way about being too trusting back when I was in college, I worked in a movie theater and we had a locker room where everyone would put their stuff while they worked. They did not trust the employees so they made us all wear these pants with no pockets. everyone had to bring in their own lock and mine had the combo on the back because I could never remember it. I had spent a nice chunk of my paycheck on a pair of Ray Ban sunglasses that I thought were so cool so I wore them everywhere. About a week after I got them I wore them to work put them and my wallet and car keys in my locker and locked it up. A few hours later I went on break and was going to get the stuff out of my locker and go get something to eat. When I get to the locker room I discover my locker is already open, the sunglasses were gone and my wallet is still there but the cash I had in it was gone. The only people with access to the locker room was the small group of employees with whom I worked many hours a week and often socialized after work with and considered to be friends. So from that day forward I have been very cautious.
On this site there is much opportunity to be scammed, identities are not verified as of yet and nothing stops someone from setting up an account under a fake name scamming a bunch of people out of stuff and then just vanishing. Even an ISP address means nothing someone could be using a public computer or wifi somewhere different everytime they go on this site. And having an address is no protection because you do not know what that address is it could be an hourly motel someplace. Don't get me wrong 99.9% of people on this site and elsewhere are honest and upstanding people but it is those other .001% that can ruin your life. And you just never know who falls into which category especially when dealing with strangers who you have never met and only communicate with via the Internet.
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02-25-2010, 12:44 PM #7
Re: Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
This is not unusual at all in the hobby. It's really no different than sending someone a check without having the item first (Paypal is marginally safer, I suppose). You take a risk either way.
As an aside, some hobby websites have a feedback system for members and actually require newer members with lower feedback scores to send items first when selling.Always looking for top NBA game worn items of superstar and Hall-of-Fame-caliber players (especially Kobe, LeBron, MJ, Curry and Durant). Also looking for game worn items of all players from special events (e.g., All Star Game, NBA Finals, milestone games, etc.). Please contact me at gameusedequip2@hotmail.com. Thank you.
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02-25-2010, 01:02 PM #8
Re: Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
Why would you ever send someone an item BEFORE you were paid?
This is the sports memorabilia hobby/market. I'm sure there are many honorable men & women taking part, but this hobby is littered with crooks.
The adult film industry doesn't have as many people getting screwed on a daily basis.
Always try to eliminate as much risk as you can.
Oh and my vote is for public caningGreg
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02-25-2010, 10:49 AM #9
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02-25-2010, 11:12 AM #10
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Re: Mods: How to handle a member who is non-paying?
FWIW, I just completed a transaction with a forum member who sent me a GU bat for $0 up front, as partial payment for a GW jersey he wanted that I shipped to him before I received his check. It worked out great and we both made a new friend.
It should be a no-brainer on this board. It isn't, probably never will be a completely safe haven from fraud, but I don't blame the OP at all for his trusting manner.
I also just received a heart-warming GU gift from another well-known forum member which could have cost me no small cash on the open market, but he thought his gift was going to a good home and he was right. I will always be in his debt and remember his gesture.
This place can be like Kansas if we let it!
perlman9 I hope this all works out for you. Thanks for the thread!